Anjar Priandoyo

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Akhir dari Tirto dan Mojok Part II

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Sudah sekitar 2 mingguan ini saya tidak lagi membaca Tirto dan Mojok. Biasanya tiap hari pasti saya membaca. Ini jangankan membaca, untuk melihat saja tidak sempat. Beberapa hari ini saya sempatkan melihat pun ternyata tidak banyak artikel yang menarik untuk saya baca. Dugaan saya:

  1. Media sejenis lain menyajikan tulisan lebih baik dari Tirto dan Mojok e.g Detik/Kompas
  2. Media alternative lain menyajikan pengalaman yang lebih abik e.g Instagram/Youtube

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Maret 24, 2019 at 7:47 pm

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A day in a life

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Let’s do it again. I finish everything by 10am. I get to rest for one hour, write something, watch something. I want to lay down and have more time to do nothing as it weekend. However, I realized that I should not do that. By 10.45, I already prepare my children clothes, prepare a bike and ready to go by 11am. However, I am not lucky. There is a problem with the back door. This is unexpected. I have checked the bike since yesterday, checking the air pressure, everything is fine. But, there is always a thing that you can not predict.

I went to the city by 11am, by 5 meters from home, I just realize that I forget the bike lock. The problem with the key is distracting my mind. I almost forget the helmet, confused and decided to speculate to go to the city with a single bike lock, the smallest that I have. I can not go back, the children will get more upset if I go back to get the bike lock. Saturday will not be fun anymore.

I arrive on time. The city center junction is under maintenance. I took the park quite far from the usual place. I worry about the safety of the bike. But I try to ignore it. In the restaurant, I still feel under pressure. Ordering the food from the machine makes me nervous. What if I choose the wrong item, what if I choose not a smart choice e.g instead buying item per item, it is always cheaper to buy a package. The ordering food is very stressful. I use a combination of machine and till. I need at least more than 4 times walking to the counter, 2 for order and 2 for ketchup. After that I still need to clean up, still, need to go to the toilet. Not mention making sure that the children eat such as opening the food, bottle, toys and making sure that they are not fighting, not getting annoyed by other people or children, and make sure that they are not bored. It is so stressful, that to be honest I did not enjoy it. Why can we just sit down in the table, wait for the waiter to come, decide the food and go home? Well there are a million reasons for it 1) this restaurant is cheap 2) children need to go outside 3) it has a toilet and more.

After lunch, I went to the shop, buy things is a must. Buying things give happiness. It gives a sense of independence in making a choice, a sense of excitement buying new things. But the process of this buying is not easy. If there are two children, each of them is competing, they want to have better things. It is also not easy for children to decide what things they want to buy. And another unexpected problem arises. I forget to bring 20p to the toilet, this should be a lesson for the future.

It takes around one hour to eat, one hour to buy toys, and one hour to buy clothes, and the last one hour to buy goodies. Well in total I spend less than four hours. I can see they are tired of walking. It already reaches the maximum time to walk by around 2 hours. Actually, after buying a cloth I can go back to home. But it is also a good decision since I did not go to the book shop.

I arrive at home safely by around 3pm. Prepare cake, present and finish everything by around 3:30pm. After that I want to get rest, this is the second resting session in the afternoon. But I remember I still have a lot of things to do: buy raw food in the shop, cooking and tidying washed clothes. It is a very busy day. I did something good, but I also did something not good. Tomorrow I will do better.

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Maret 23, 2019 at 7:21 pm

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I feel proud of myself

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Lets do it again. I wake up at 4am, go to toilet, breath, check entertainment at phone, trying to enjoy the morning. I start running at 5am, a bit slow, finish everything by 7am. I start to take a bath, prepare breakfast by 8:30am. Wash all dishes, put trash in the bin, clean everything at first sight, mop, put recycle and finish by 09:45am. I am lucky. Today is better than normal day. Usually I just finish everything by 10am.

My best record is 9am. If children eat fast, they are in good condition. But today, the weather is a bit unpredictable. I wake up in the middle of the night. The children is sneezing. Food is a bit boring. So finish everything by 09:45 is very good actually.

So 10am to 12am is my relaxation time. Dirty clothes is already in washing machine. I know the food already for lunch and dinner. So I will have a full relaxation day. In the afternoon, around 3pm. I will do another job, cutting the grass or washing clothes again. I should have a two of two hours free time. I can use it to watch movie or read a book. If this goes normal, I can finish 26 book in a year or 26 movie in the year, which considered normal -if its a target.

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Maret 23, 2019 at 10:05 am

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PhD Submission part II

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I write about PhD submission in 25 Feb 2019. The case is simple, it is where a PhD get a problem with timeline. He and the supervisor is working in different direction. When I read that case, I concluded that 90% said that should wait for supervisor, where 10% said just do it. Now, the same case, I found the answer is quite the opposite. I concluded that 90% said just do it. It is interesting that within a month a perspective might change.

For example there are more positive word that I read compare last month “in most UK institutions however, you do not need your supervisor’s approval to submit ref“. And “I submitted my PhD thesis despite my advisers disapproval. I did receive minor revisions which I thought was great ref“. And “When I first submitted, I had the green light from my supervisor, only to land an R&R after the viva ref

And most interesting one “You can’t predict the outcome of your viva, which is completely at the whim of your examiners. I’ve seen examiners tell students their theses are wonderful, when I think they are average, and I’ve seen examiners tell students their theses are just acceptable, when I think they are pretty great, so what I’m saying is, it is irrelevant what anyone, other than the examiners, thinks”

But as comparison, the worst case scenario is “R&R: revise and resubmit, with a second viva and a change in supervision ref” notes this thread is scary, altough in the worst case scenario even people still can pass ref. “Expect to feel angry, upset, disillusioned, and inept for the first few months following the viva ref

Let see, at this moment I don’t think that an extention in time will give more benefit, I am not sure this will be worthed. But let see.

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Maret 21, 2019 at 8:25 pm

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Relaxing days

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Well, its over. I am very tired this afternoon. I finished my meeting with my supervisor. Finished my coffee morning rotation. Tomorrow, there is still things todo like preparing for birthday cake. And in continuing the same pattern for next 3 weeks before easter holiday.

Is this the biggest battle yet? W1 I have parents evening, book day costume. W2 I have violin problem, red nose costume. March looks good, its a school day. I am getting used to the routine after one month. February is very stressful. Its during the transition, including holiday. April, will be more stressful. Its a two week holiday, but at least I already experiencing in February so it supposed to be easier. Then it will come May, a full month again. It might be a battle, or it might be not a battle. I did not know.

But well. I need to enjoy this. To make it short, I still think that a 9-5 pattern is still acceptable, we keep doing things until it force to stop due to holiday or something. Let see.

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Maret 21, 2019 at 5:48 pm

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ATM Skimming Crime

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37-year-old Ramyadjie Priambodo (b1982), Married 2013, Director PT Asiabumi Petroleo. United World College of South East Asia, IB School in SG and UNSW educated, Prabowo distant relative. Estimate loss 300 million from 50 skimming (average of 6 million). This case is interesting, there are several things that worthed to be noted:

  • He does not have experience of banking operation, (he knows about energy), this is dangerous, as even he know from technical aspect, but he will never know the strict operation of banking e.g cctv, reconcilliation, atm monitoring.
  • The motive is might be confusing as he comes from elite wealthy background, but this is an easy example how easy people might fall, how often people misjudged his own capability. Be paranoid is good. (reference to Everybody Loves Raymond – Recovering Pessimist)

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Maret 19, 2019 at 9:02 pm

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Unusual problem solving method

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I realized that in the real life, there are a lot of problem that does not have a solution. I have been in a tender that require very cheap prize but high quality. The solution of this is should be something unusual. E.g having person that has multiple qualification, use a credential in the past that quite similar, use credential from large project that are divided into smaller parts. The solution of this require a high level of mental flexibility (or in other word, creativity). However the problem of this solution is stressful, as there is a chance that this approach will fail.

I also found that many problem in the household life, that similar with that corporate problem.

How to tell children to have dinner at specific time and finished at specific time?

  • Make a very nice food, and make sure that children is not too full of snack and make sure that children is in the right level of hungry, and make sure that children is not in the middle of entertainment (watching tv, playing computer)
  • Alternative: Feed the children while they are in the middle of entertainment

How to tell children that insist of getting some difficult item (expensive or rare)?

  • Save some money, or try to find a cheaper alternative by doing some effort
  • Alternative: Never discuss, avoid this by changing the subject

How not get annoyed by a coworker

  • Move to different place, but will have less facility
  • Alternative: Avoid interaction with coworker

How to express disagreement

  • Tell the disagreement directly, expecting result although knowing nothing will be happen
  • Postpone, indecisive (the opposite is direct attack, insist).

This is a bit complex. For example, a children want to buy some toys, the parent might postpone this by telling the children to wait until payday, which is never come. The opposite case, the parent might postpone by telling the children to ask their grandparent, which is unlikely. This called, buying time.

E.g not agree on some decision, just tell them to wait (e.g in the opposite tell them to d

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Maret 18, 2019 at 7:18 pm

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