Well, in other word: Don’t make conclusion when you’re in emotionally unstable.
If you’re very happy don’t make decision, a lot of incorrect decision made when you are happy. Salesman know about this. If you’re sad don’t make conclusion, you will end up biased. Some people know this and sometimes got fortune in this situation.
As long as you know the big pictures, the pattern of yourself, and the most important the willingness to listen to yourself. Be careful.
We are not in the position to discuss which one is right or wrong, there are many cases that western is very collective (blood thicker than water) or asian is very individualist. Remember be careful with generalization. If you are live alone (or at least interact alone) then there is no problem if you are ignore or take care, but if you live in society, then you should know which society that you live in.
There are only two stage of life: rise and fall. Human stage of life is easy to identified. By the average life expectancy we know almost to be exact when people will died, when the top of his performance, which career aspiration, what is his concern. Easy.
Stage of family, is similar but more difficult to identified. Some family might be very successful until three generation. Some says that 1st generation build, 2nd generation grow and 3rd generation destroy is familiar, so it can be in 75 years or even two hundred years.
Stage of country, is even more difficult because the variable is a lot of bigger. Some countries is like more than 800 years old (UK), or France/US more than 200 years. But some countries, Indonesia for example is just 60+ years old. Understanding this would be much more difficult.
But overall, what ever stage you are in, the indicator of success is the same. The one that success is the one that works harder (sometimes) but most of times collect bigger amount. So no need to be worry, as long as we can see objectively.
1. Learning (Young), What is limitation: Rise, Perwira Pertama (No Money)
2. Discovery/Commitment/Contemplate (Adult), Know what is the limit: Top, Perwira Madya (No Time)
3. Contemplate: Reflect on Limitation: Decline, Perwira Tinggi (No Energy)
Lets be honest, most of the time, all the CV that I made (or I reviewed) is over exaggerated. The math sometimes is not correct and too obvious. Here is the common mistake that I made (now with 10+ years experience, next Oct 2015 would be 11 years) and what the interviewer should notice on the CV that applicant made.
1. How old are you?
Well no need to ask this question actually, you can see from their CV, and first thing that should be notice is on the age of applicant, see date of birth section. My guidelines:
20s (22-30): Staff: Staff/Manager Position (0-10 years experience)
30s (30-40): Mid Management: Manager/Director Position (11-20 years experience)
40s (40-50): Management: Director Position (21-30 years experience)
2. How long have you been working?
Well it also can be seen from CV, see section graduated from University. Lets say my case in 2004, so now (Jul 2015), it should be have around 11 years of experience.
3. How long you have been in this position?
Ah this is the key question. In my case, I would say that “Eleven years experience in risk consulting industry with latest position as senior manager”. But smart interviewer will ask, How long you have been in manager position. The best candidate should be able to answer that it has been more than three years in the latest position. Otherwise something wrong.
There would be four possibility:
a. Employer is smart: The new position is ‘dangerous’ position or it can be filled by anyone, but the real power is on the other part.
b. Applicant is smart: He will only stay in the company short term as long paycheck good.
c. Employer is super smart, who ever fill the position the company goes
d. Application is super smart: He know his capacity, he willing take the risk in 3 or more years of tenure.
Providing independent assesment on environment is not easy, but it can be done. Portrait of any kind situation is required, from neutral point of view.
It can be done on two approach, the past review or potential risk review.
The best life is life to the fullest. Which mean life healthy, life without pressure, live wisely.
But in reality it is very difficult to achieve that. We have existential crisis. We fear of losing things.
Life is simple. Thing works most of the time because destiny/luck. Our effort is insignificant. Thats why no need for questioning or answer. Do not make it complicated.
Big4 is successful business model. And just like every business that has success characteristic, here is the explanation.
What the evidence that it success
1. Size, impossible to challenge
2. It works, it generate revenue.
3. Strong brand
4. Positioning on top of industry
What the cause of it success
1. It started long time ago, matured. Proven over time.
2. Loyal, returning, sizeable customer
3. Invest a lot of money
Are they smart? Are they happy? Is not the valid question.