Karir: Binary Choice Career vs Family

Ternyata saya cukup banyak menulis mengenai karir. Biasanya saya menulis hanya dari satu sudut pandang saja. Sekarang saya mencoba melihat dari sudut pandang yang lebih luas. Work vs Life atau Career vs Family. Kesimpulan saya, karir itu binary choice, pilihan yang hitam putih. Untuk bisa berhasil dua-duanya tidak mungkin. Kalau ada yang bisa, hampir dipastikan 1 banding 1000. Lebih banyak yang tidak berhasilnya.

Masalahnya bukan saja sekedar pembagian waktu, betapapun waktu bisa dibagi, tapi ada faktor mental. Misalnya stress yang menular, e.g ketidakpastian keberlanjutan proyek itu bisa terbawa ke rumah. Sebenarnya saya dari dahulu mewanti-wanti untuk tidak menjadi programmer. Programmer itu membawa pekerjaan ke rumah. Tapi belakangan saya menyadari, bahwa bisa jadi programmer malah tidak membawa pekerjaan ke rumah. Bisa jadi yang dikira berat itu ternyata tidak berat.

Bisa jadi lembur tengah malam menjaga server itu justru lebih ringan dibandingkan terbangun ditengah malam menunggu keputusan kemenangan proyek. Menunggu menangnya proyek saja sudah stress belum lagi nanti memikirkan bagaimana mengerjakan proyeknya.

ref:
Jebakan karir di tingkat menengah

Nexus: Lari, Film, Buku

Punya mental health yang kuat itu tidak mudah, situasi seringkali tidak mengizinkan. Kejadian terakhir misalnya, terjadi di bulan puasa. Maka mentracking lari hampir mustahil dilakukan. Kondisi mental yang susah fokus misalnya, membuat acara membaca buku atau menonton film hampir mustahil dilakukan. Namun sebagai veteran, saya punya beberapa trick untuk melakukannya:

Nexus: Lari, Film, Buku
Routine: Calendar, Notes, Sheet

All right let’s do this one last time – Spider-Man

All right let’s do this one last time”-Spider-Man: Into the Spider-Verse (2018)

Interesting, I sleep early, right after Isya at about 7:30pm, I wake up about 3:00am. It feel that I sleep about 8 hours, which is perfect. I start to walk at 5:30am. Clean the house until 7am, and be ready for the first round at 8am.

The first ritual in the morning to ensure that I am ready to face what ever the universe gives me. The first ritual give me mental image, mental structure, and mental procedures that face what ever happen.

1.Calendarization: Measurement of recurring approach based on effort
Understanding the concept of time

2.Recordification: Always record. Use simple notes granularification. Use calendar
Understanding the concept of effort

3.Trackerization: Measurement of impact approach. Use spreadsheet
Understanding the concept of impact

Interesting, the simple CRT concept: Calendar Notes and Spreadsheet.

Career Immobility: Career Interruptions

Chapter 5: Balancing Work and Family

The survey finds that women experience family-related career interruptions at a much higher rate than men do.

Menarik dari Pewresearch mengenai Balancing Work and Family. Ini episode tulisan-tulisan mengenai karir mentok (Career Immobility).

The first routine

The first routine of everyday.

1. Recordification: Always record. Use simple notes
2. Calendarization: Measurement of recurring approach based on effort granularification. Use calendar
3. Trackerization: Measurement of impact approach. Use spreadsheet

Anatomy of stress

Zonk,

Ada beberapa deal hari ini yang polanya sangat menarik. i) unenthusiastic people ii) no clear guidance or agreement iii) no monetary activity involved.

Terkait hal ini solusinya hanya satu: stop.

Dari sini juga pola lainnya terlihat. i) overly optimistic people, including over simplify ii) there is no proven track record

Better systen coming from better data

Mental Health – Emotional issues are relationships issues

Interesting. The reason I avoid email is because it is too emotional. Most of these can be solved by attachment theory. Aim to be relaxed all the time, as we cannot specify when to be relaxed or when to be stressed. Just like the immune system it is unpredictable

Calendar: Start at 3:00 AM

Calendar: Start at 3:00 AM. Interesting. A calendar is a system of organizing days. This is done by giving names to periods of time, typically days, weeks, months and years.

1. They focus on minutes, not hours: Interesting, I only can do it in 30 minutes or smallest at 15 minutes
2. They focus only on one thing: Interesting, most important task (MIT) in the morning for 1-2 hours
3. They don’t use to-do lists: Agree
4. They beat procrastination with time travel: Agree, don’t put standard too high
5. They make it home for dinner: Agree, don’t work too much
6. They use a notebook: Agree, but practicallity
7. They process email only a few times a day.
8. They avoid meetings at all costs.
9. They say “no” to almost everything.
10. They follow the 80/20 rule.
11. They delegate almost everything.
12. They “theme” days of the week.
13. They only touch things one time.
    Try to “touch it once.” If it takes less than five or ten minutes–whatever it is–they deal with it immediately. Doing so reduces stress
14. They follow a consistent morning routine.
15. Energy is everything.

inc: Get More Done: 15 Things the Most Successful People Do Differently to Be More Productive

The way I found that works for me is I theme my days. On Monday, at both companies, I focus on management and running the company…Tuesday is focused on product. Wednesday is focused on marketing and communications and growth. Thursday is focused on developers and partnerships. Friday is focused on the company and the culture and recruiting. Saturday I take off, I hike. Sunday is reflection, feedback, strategy, and getting ready for the week.
The Jack Dorsey Productivity Secret That Enables Him To Run Two Companies At Once

Monday: Management
Tuesday: Product
Wednesday: Growth (Marcom)
Thursday: Developers and Partnerships
Friday: Company, Culture, Recruits

On Communication: Marketing, Communication, Product Growth
On Collaboration: Developers & Partnerships
On Cultures: Recruit & Personnels

Working Cycle: Control approach

Ada yang salah dengan cara saya bekerja.

1.Bekerja 24×7
Pertama, saya baru menyadari bahwa saya bekerja sangat panjang, hampir 24×7. Saya baru menyadari bahwa weekend pun jadwal pekerjaan saya sangat padat. Hari kerja sepertinya rata-rata saya bisa bekerja hingga 16 jam sehari. Ini baru saya sadari ketika melihat jam kerja saya secara lebih detail sejak pukul 04:00 pagi hingga pukul 22:00 malam.

2.Bekerja sangat keras (paralel, fast response)
Saya baru menyadari bahwa saya seringkali mengangkat telepon sambil mengerjakan sesuatu. Menyelesaikan laporan sambil tiba-tiba teringat untuk mengirim email.

Ini semua adalah cara bekerja yang salah.

Saya mencoba memperbaiki dengan beberapa cara, salah satunya adalah dengan melakukan

Classify: klasifikasi

Control: to some degree repeatable control aka cycle: siklus
Start to Stop; RFI/Sales/Deals to Delivery; Green to Grey;

*thanks Foucault

Calendar: 16 hours a day work

Just realize that I think I work too much. I am an early bird, I start at around 4 am and sleep around 8 pm. Actually, without “customer services”, I can finish my work within 1 hour per day. Need to reduce it to like a half day of work is basically a full day of work.