Sometimes yes, we need a role model. A model on how a person can become something. Even somehow, the role model is not that effective. Because it might makes you demotivated, you still need a role model. The model can inspire many side of your life that not yet tobe discovered. I believe that the key for successful model is to develop by our own.
Each person has their own strength, their own preference. It is not a matter of good decision or bad decision. Its matter to understand the situation, its own situation and make a good judgement of it. For my personal success story, I should give the credit to my wife, which have much more better judgment then me in every situation.
30 September 2014, 00:45 PM
Replace 24 with, 34 or 44 or even 64. Do we need to feel afraid? do we need to worry with something? Honestly when I was 24 years old, it was a very scary moment in my life. I am not sure with my job at that time, I am not sure whether our family will be survive at that period, I mean my father, mother, brother. Fast forward, 10 years later, if I looked down at that period, I would say to younger myself not to afraid, and enjoy everything in your life give to you.
But, that is 20s something? 20s is a place that people can make a stupid mistake. People can take any risk, any impossible option. There is no direct consequences for the family, for the people you love, for the saving and another cliche things. As Dale Carnegie once said that those should divide his life into three period: first for learning, second for collecting money, and third for donate. 20s, I assume is a place where you should learn, and the first rule in learning is making a mistake.
Breathe, If I use the same projection, seeing my 40s version of me looking at his 30s, will I say the same thing, like I said to my 20s right now?
Question like this is always interesting to be explored. There are a couple of answer for this, and for myself is always changing time to time. And the latest answer for me, at least by last night discussion with my wife is: Intelligence. Yup, Intelligence, is not about experience, is not about momentum, it’s all about intelligence.
My mother in law is a successful businesswoman in her era. She considered successful as fish trader for more than 40 years in this industry compare to her siblings -she has 20 siblings from one father/mother. All of them work as fish trader but only two including her, that success.
Reason why she success? She explains to me that the reasons are:
- Religious reason, such as it’s because God helps, because she always give charity, help people etc
- Learn business since beginning, experience up and down, knows the momentu
- Always manage her business in effective traditional way e.g always saving, never make a speculated decision, have a good partner.
- Have a good ‘education’, trained by her father, fail early etc.
Looking at her answer, I would say that her explanation is wrong. Why? If her explanation is correct then one of her child should be able to continue her business. I would agree to say to reason of behind her success are:
- Can not be explained. She’s been working for more four decade. Only by trading a fish, only selling one type of fish. Fish, is not crab, squid. Only one type fish and by one method of cooked: smoked fish.
- She has a develop skill/intelligence/competence for this kind of business. So her articulation about how business should be run might be incorrect.
- Time matters, since she been working for a very long period, she has a lot of knowledge that so many, which very difficult to explained. Even if it force to be explained than her explanation might be wrong. For example she will be missing the very important answer e.g to be very sensitive listening on opportunity.
- She always mention about not to have a debt. Which also might be true, only in her condition where there is no opportunity that can be exploited by debt. So if a person learn from her, of course will not be success because they took the wrong ingredient.
So if you see the group of answer above. I can simple summarize that the first group of answer called: Knowledge/Data Source. And the second group of answer is called Intelligence/Reasoning. We might find as much as possible the data source, by learning from million of books, people, teacher or experience. But to embed that knowledge to our day to day intelligence system is not as important than to develop the intelligence itself.
And how to be super intelligence? I don’t know. You just can feel it, that some one is much more intelligence than other. That a advanced intelligence of someone, seen significantly but sometimes can not be explained why someone very successful.
What is ten most important events in the history of Indonesia? I would suggest this 10 event would be the most significant, any other opinion?
- 1475 Demak, First Muslim State in Java Established
- 1602 VOC / Dutch East India Company. First settlement of Dutch Trading Post
- 1628 Siege of Batavia. First conflict between Jan Pieterszoon Coen and Sultan Agung Mataram
- 1704 First Javenese War of Succession
- 1740 Batavia Massacre, Led to Java War (1741–43) Casualties 20.000
- 1800 Dutch East Indies started, VOC closed
Era of United Kingdom of Netherland begin, Democratic and Industrial Development
- 1808-1811 Anyer Panarukan Great Post Road
1000 km road, one of longest in the world at that time. Built within 1 year, lead by HW Daendels, Governor General of the Dutch East Indies. One of most important impact in Java economy. Casualties 12.000 people died during the construction.
- 1811 Invasion of Java, Anglo-Dutch Java War, Led to 1811-1816 British/French Occupation
British Culture, Left side driving, Raffles discovery of Borobudur, Rafflesia, Bogor Botanical Garden.
- 1825-1830 Java War, Casualties 200.000
Beginning era of plantation/pre-industrial and strong colonial government
1830 Cultuurstelsel: Van den Bosch.
1860 Max Havelaar Published
1867 First railway established in Semarang
1898 STOVIA, Establishment of University of Indonesia, first University in Indonesia
- 20 May 1908, National Awakening Era
Budi Utomo established, First native political society in the Dutch East Indies. On next 28 October 1928, Youth Pledge, Sumpah Pemuda. Establishment of the nationalist goals of one country — Indonesia, one people — Indonesian, and one language – Indonesian
I heard, quite often that people said “Don’t look back at your past”, well I disagree, because I think we need a past, to understand and to prepare what will be happen in the future. If we see the past, then we only may see that some people success and other fail. Some people make good decision and others not. And if we are from history listener point of view, then we think that why you did not choose that option, or “I know the reason you success is because of that option”.
In reality, people know, which option is the best for him. For example, if you’re graduate from high school and the best option that you can have is having a college, top tier university in medical or engineering maybe. But to get that kind of opportunity is a bit rare and uneasy. For example there are only 200 something student in medical in UI or maybe around 150 something in top electrical engineering class. And the best thing is you need to wait until that opportunity given to you. That “fortune never goes in to wrong hand.
Life maybe complicated, with bit uncertainty, with emotional and temper, with too many distraction. And for sure when we know which option that we should choose then we still need to be wait until that moment happen. Being patience is always key for everything.
In every superhero movie, there are always people with teleport and time travel ability, whether it’s from X-Men, Heroes or even Superman -with flying so fast can be comparable as teleport ability. People want a ability to manage space and manage time. People want to be anywhere and anytime. The idea is simple, that if we can move around time then we can fast forward into happy area and leave the unhappy area. People can move from different place to another place.
However, there is still one weakness of having that two ability, which are become old. Right now, you can move from one place to another place quite easy, and you can time travel by reading a book, watch movie -for me is comparable to time travel. However, for sure you can not cheat to be old. Teleport and Time Travel just make us wise. Wise to judge anything that happen in this world, wise to understand why so many thing happened, some of a reason, some without a reason.
Yesterday I met an old woman, maybe around 55 something or in early 60. She’s been working in middle east for around 30 years. She able to speak three language fluently: Her local language, English and Arabic. I imagine if someone would spend his 30 years – a 3 decade of his life to work in certain area, then he would be very expert, very passion, and love every part that he perform during the last 30 years. Because half of his life is in that area. My father works for almost 27 year as technician in cigarette company and everything he knows in this life is related with a proud to be a mechanical ‘expert’ in his area.
So, where am I now. I am 10 years forward. I am 30s, however I always told myself that I am at my 40s. I already have my family with two children, so by next 10 years they are already mature enough to decide what they should and should not do. And I hope that at that time in that place, I would say: I told you. Ah future.
Its need a 40 minutes of 5 km run and we got 300 calories. And in the same time we got around 5 paragraph and 300 words. The first will make our body health and the second will make our mind healthy. Repeat this process every day and you will have a much better life.
Sometimes, I always think that life is just a matter how you make a repeatable process. The repeatable process is defining how would our life would be. Difficult? I guess yes, because our mind always think differently every moment, there are a lot of idea that difficult to be execute if we did not have the foundation.
Since today, I have a lot of time to do what I like, doesn’t mean that I have that a lot of time. Time is something that of course to precious, but also screw us. But that is life. And strugling to have the meaning of it require a lot of energy. But let see.